The Many, Many Roles Of A Mother


I don't think it's possible to fully comprehend everything that the role of mother entails before becoming a mother. We live in a time period where fathers do more than they ever have before, but many moms still take on the majority of the responsibility not just with the children but in the home as well. Tack on the fact that many moms are working part-time or full-time jobs and what you have may seem like a never ending to-do list.


Moms are house managers. Moms are the reasons that things get done in the house. The house doesn't run seamlessly because it's easy, it runs seamlessly because mom is behind the scenes making sure that all the I's are dotted and all of the T's are crossed. This is perhaps the hardest job that a mother holds because all of the work that it takes to make this happen rarely gets seen and thus, it's a very thankless job. Even worse, if anything falls through the cracks, she's solely responsible for getting everything back on track and cleaning up all of the collateral damage. 


Moms are chefs. From the day that you introduce your child to solid foods, you take on the role of chef. It's not as big of a responsibility to start but as your little ones taste buds develop and they depend less and less on formula or breast milk, you have to start thinking more and more about food. In addition to providing them with food, you want them to be healthy options. Some moms even take on the added responsibility of making their own baby food! Whether or not, you buy food from a jar or make your own, at some point in time, you will become responsible for providing them with breakfast, lunch, dinner and a multitude of snacks throughout the day making you mama...the chef.


Moms are maids. Its one thing to let things go before kids but nearly impossible after. While adults and older children can clean up after themselves, babies and small children cannot, which leaves you in charge of it. When you become a mom, you go from having a day or two of cleaning a week to feeling like you're constantly cleaning. If you find it impossible to walk through the house without picking up and putting things away, you are not alone. 


Moms are protectors. The term mama bear exists because moms will do anything to protect their children. The role of protector starts the minute that you learn that you're pregnant and it never goes away. Whether, you're trying to protect your child from physical pain or emotional pain, as a mother you are laser focused on getting this job right. As moms, we understand that we can't protect our children from everything but that doesn't stop us from trying our very best to do so or from feeling guilty when we can't. 


Moms are problem solvers! We are the family's problem solver. We are the ones who figure out which diapers won't leak, we find the bottles that won't give our babies gas, we figure out how to get our picky eaters to eat and we figure out how to tame temper tantrums. As a mom, we are faced with solving so many problems, that sometimes it feels as if the wheels in our head never stop turning.


Moms are healers. No, we are not actual healers but mommy kisses and hugs are our kid's placebos. We are in tune enough with our children that we may not be able to diagnose what is wrong with them, but we typically have an instinct that lets us know when something is wrong with them. We also have to be cool, calm and collected as they get their many bumps, bruises, and illnesses even though our hearts may breaking on the inside. 


Moms are chauffeurs. From the time that they're little and we carry them around on us, to the time that they're independent tots that don't want to be pushed in the stroller but also want to be carried after their little legs tire to just before they're old enough to drive, moms are responsible for getting their children from point A to point B. 


Moms are worriers. There's a reason that moms tend to be more stressed out than dads. Moms are tasked with the job of overthinking and worrying for everyone! In the beginning, we worry about whether our babies are getting enough milk or dressed warm enough. We worry when they start walking about whether or not they'll fall and hurt themselves. When they become teenagers and adults, we worry that we've done a good job instilling good values in them and that they'll make the right decisions as they gain more and more independence. This is a part of the permanence of motherhood and one job that will never go away.